Have you ever had a moment where you realized you were being cowardly, and selling someone out?
I remember the moment I realized that I was doing exactly that.
It didn’t feel good.
I was on the phone with a man who wanted to make a major change in his life. He was home from his Inner King Experience, and was keenly aware that there was something important that he wanted to change in his life. He also knew he would never be able to make that change without help.
I told him, “Look, you know you will need help bringing this into your life. It doesn’t have to be from me, but it has to be from somewhere. Will you get that support?”
And that was when he said the thing that made me realize I had been selling men out…
He said, “Yeah yeah.”
I wish you could have been there to hear his tonality.
It wasn’t the enthusiastic “yes” of a man who is committed to taking action and getting what he wanted.
It was the “yeah yeah” of a little boy, saying whatever he needed to in order to end some uncomfortable conversation with an adult, like--
“Will you clean your room today?”
“Yeah yeah. Of course I will.”
His “yeah yeah” was not the response of a King.
It was the “yeah yeah” of a man who was running away.
I realized in that moment that I had heard that “yeah yeah” before. Perhaps it hadn’t been those exact words, but in the tone and demeanor of so many men who had told me “Of course I’ll get the support I need to bring my dreams to reality”…who then went on to do nothing.
And I had sold those men out. Men who trusted me, who came to my workshops for transformation. I had allowed them to lie to themselves—to “yeah yeah” their way out of the life that they dreamed of—without their even knowing they were doing it.
I let them lie to themselves (and to me), and I didn’t say a word because I didn’t want to appear “pushy” or “sales-y.”
So if you are one of those men I sold out, I’m sorry.
If you “yeah yeah’d” me, and I didn’t call you on it, I apologize. If I allowed you to step away from your powerful Kingship, without a word of challenge, I apologize. I didn’t do my job of helping you become clear and congruent about what is really important to you.
So I’m “changing my tune.” In the next email I will ask you some challenging questions, and invite you to not “yeah yeah” your way out of them.
If you take those questions seriously, it’ll be a real step toward bringing even more of what you want into your life.
And that’s important.
In support of your Kingship,
Dmitri Bilgere
db@dbweb.org
608-217-4956 voice/text
I remember the moment I realized that I was doing exactly that.
It didn’t feel good.
I was on the phone with a man who wanted to make a major change in his life. He was home from his Inner King Experience, and was keenly aware that there was something important that he wanted to change in his life. He also knew he would never be able to make that change without help.
I told him, “Look, you know you will need help bringing this into your life. It doesn’t have to be from me, but it has to be from somewhere. Will you get that support?”
And that was when he said the thing that made me realize I had been selling men out…
He said, “Yeah yeah.”
I wish you could have been there to hear his tonality.
It wasn’t the enthusiastic “yes” of a man who is committed to taking action and getting what he wanted.
It was the “yeah yeah” of a little boy, saying whatever he needed to in order to end some uncomfortable conversation with an adult, like--
“Will you clean your room today?”
“Yeah yeah. Of course I will.”
His “yeah yeah” was not the response of a King.
It was the “yeah yeah” of a man who was running away.
I realized in that moment that I had heard that “yeah yeah” before. Perhaps it hadn’t been those exact words, but in the tone and demeanor of so many men who had told me “Of course I’ll get the support I need to bring my dreams to reality”…who then went on to do nothing.
And I had sold those men out. Men who trusted me, who came to my workshops for transformation. I had allowed them to lie to themselves—to “yeah yeah” their way out of the life that they dreamed of—without their even knowing they were doing it.
I let them lie to themselves (and to me), and I didn’t say a word because I didn’t want to appear “pushy” or “sales-y.”
So if you are one of those men I sold out, I’m sorry.
If you “yeah yeah’d” me, and I didn’t call you on it, I apologize. If I allowed you to step away from your powerful Kingship, without a word of challenge, I apologize. I didn’t do my job of helping you become clear and congruent about what is really important to you.
So I’m “changing my tune.” In the next email I will ask you some challenging questions, and invite you to not “yeah yeah” your way out of them.
If you take those questions seriously, it’ll be a real step toward bringing even more of what you want into your life.
And that’s important.
In support of your Kingship,
Dmitri Bilgere
db@dbweb.org
608-217-4956 voice/text
